He proposes using the same ring he gave to his ex: a distraught fiancé

As a proposal, he uses the same ring he gave to his ex: a distraught fiancée

Rings aren’t the most important part of a marriage proposal. Most people would be perfectly happy with a ring pop or Haribo ring if it meant they got to marry the person they love

However, if you get one, it’s still a very nice gesture, and the piece of jewellery can become incredibly sentimental for you and your family.

When her partner got down on one knee, he gave her a fancy engagement ring, and she’s always liked it – until she found out the truth about how it was made.

The anonymous wife shared her outrage on Mumsnet after discovering her husband gave her the same ring he once gave to his ex-wife.

In addition, he spent years lying about it, insisting it wasn’t the same ring.

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“Am I being ridiculous?” she wrote. I was really upset.

The woman said she did not know where the engagement ring her partner gave her came from, but it looked exactly like the one he gave his ex years earlier. “I was suspicious from the start because I knew his ex-wife (who is the mother of my stepchildren) had returned the ring when they separated. We found it when we were getting rid of a lot of junk when we moved in together, so I knew he still had it when we first met. It was seven years ago. I was told the ring was gone and that he had gotten rid of it forever.

Immediately after he asked me to marry him and gave me a ring, I had some doubts. I remembered seeing a ring, but I wasn’t sure where it had come from, so I wasn’t sure if it was the same ring he gave to his ex. When I asked him where the ring came from, he said he got it from a shop close to our home and had gone there with a friend to pick it out for me.”

She goes on to say that it was recently discovered that the ring he gave his ex was the exact same one he used to propose to her.

She admits: “I’m actually really thrown off. Not because I’m sad about having a fancy ring, I’d have been happy with anything. But I’m upset that he lied, and I am upset that it’s the ring he gave another woman too.

As it turned out, the woman was correct in her suspicions: “I am really stunned by this whole affair. I was shocked that he lied to me and gave me another woman’s ring — a woman who is also the mother of his children.

In a way, I’m embarrassed, as this is the mother of his children, and she hasn’t been the kindest to me. I don’t know if she spotted it, but if she did, it makes me cringe. That’s the kind of thing she’d enjoy knowing that I don’t know.”

“I am really really annoyed. Is this petty? Do I have a right to be upset? Does it matter? I know the lying matters but I’m also that it’s the same ring, would that part bother you as well?”

More than 200 people replied to the post, with many agreeing they would be upset as well.

The person said: “I would be hurt by the lie and the gesture too.”

A second person wrote: “It would really bother me too.”. You’re not being unreasonable.”

He could have sold it and bought you a new one or altered this one, but recycling a ring is a no-no and I am not a big jewellery person, in fact, I think my ring cost me around 500 pounds. Still, it was new.”

Another poster wrote: “I’d feel the same way.” His words sound lazy and thoughtless. “Take it to the jeweler and exchange it for something you like, add some money, and upgrade it.”

A different user responded: “You’re right. He lied about something as important as your engagement.”. That’s bad. I question his overall integrity.

How do you feel about this story? Is the woman right to be upset about this or should she just “get over it? ” Let us know in the comments!

And to think that it all started with an engagement ring


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