Managing blended families can be challenging, and Carla is facing these challenges head-on. She feels burdened by having to take care of her partner’s three children for long hours every day while his ex-wife is busy with work. Unhappy with this situation, Carla decided to seek advice.
Here’s what she shared:
“My husband’s ex-wife has an important job, and I’m a stay-at-home wife. This summer, she started leaving their young boys with me from morning until late evening because she’s ‘so busy.’
Yesterday, I told her, ‘I’m not a babysitter. I want $120 a day, $40 for each child.’ My husband stayed quiet, and his ex-wife looked uncomfortable. After she left, my husband smirked and said, ‘And I’m not a free provider. I work all day to give you a good life, and I won’t accept you treating my kids like they’re strangers. This is their home too!’
I got angry and explained that being a housewife is already hard work, and I can’t take care of three kids who aren’t mine!
Today, I was sh:ocked to find all my belongings packed in boxes, with a note from my husband saying, ‘Since you want to earn $120 a day, maybe you can start buying your own things.’
I feel completely insulted by my husband’s actions. This isn’t like him at all. Was I really wrong to ask for some recognition for taking care of three kids?”
I understand that the husband is taking care of the wife but taking care of three kids also a job so if she’s asking for a 120 what’s the problem she may want to use it on taking the kids out the house not sitting in the house at the end of the day of the white guy such an important job why not give her the money she acts like it’s not going to be used on the children give this woman something to do not sit in the house watching your kids because she didn’t have these kids and these kids work there before she even got there so why is it both of you feel like she’s obligated to take care of your children that both of you had after all she’s the stepmother she doesn’t have any real children but she’s trying and then for you to pack up her clothes and then put her stuff at the door or however you did it so if she got to go and provide for herself that means she had to take care expenses and she needs her back their expenses for keeping your kids a whole summer and everybody else was free to do whatever they needed to do go to work provide for others or do anything else okay yeah again the kids were there before her so why are you guys feeling like if she was just think if she wasn’t there why is she obligated to take care of your kids why wasn’t your kid where were your kids previously before she even got there where were your kids at all so you guys are leaving her and no win situation but if I was her I’d let the husband sit there where he go and be where he be because number one you’re not going to disrespect me it’s like you still on your ex-wife side maybe you should go back to your ex-wife and y’all can figure this out because there’s no way you going to disrespect me and then think that I’m supposed to be okay with it that makes people grow resentment against your kids because of you putting them in situations like that everybody joins in circus but who wants to be the biggest clown
It’s way cheaper than a nanny or daycare, and OP is an absolute idiot to marry and breed with a ‘single dad’ who still wants his first wife back. she’s just his bangnanny.