Venessa Lynch of Minnesota, who grew up in a blended family, knows that we don’t always get to choose our families.
Vanessa met her husband, Craig Lynch, in college. Vanessa grew to love Craig’s little son Henry as they fell in love. By the time they got married after a few years of COVID-19 delays, they had grown into a lovely family of three.
Vanessa knew she wanted to mention her son Henry, who was nine years old, in her wedding vows. She wasn’t only getting a spouse, but also a stepson. Although she was concerned that she would disgrace the child during the ceremony, she chose to do it on December 11, 2021.
“I wanted [Craig] to understand how important my relationship with Henry was to me,” she said. “I didn’t want to be just another woman his father was married to.”
She motioned to Henry to go forward as she completed her vows to Craig. “Henry, I’m sorry I wasn’t there when you were born,” she says to the boy in an emotional video. “I wasn’t there when you took your first steps or spoke your first words, but I’ll be there for many more.”
As Henry, Craig, and Vanessa fought back tears, she pledged to love them as if they were her own. “I promise to be the best wife for your father and the best stepmother I can be.”
After she ended, Henry jumped into her arms and gave her the best hug.
Vanessa explained, “I’m not an outgoing person, but when I started making the vows, I became choked up because I could tell how much it meant to Henry to hear them.” “It was unexpected.”
Vanessa explained how her own upbringing taught her how important a stepparent can be in a child’s life when the touching video went viral.
Her decision to recite vows to Henry was influenced by her childhood experience of how stepparents should treat stepchildren as if they were their own. “Just because you are not blood relatives does not mean you can’t be a family.” It all comes down to the love you have for someone and the commitment you give them.”
Henry is extremely lucky to have such a caring and understanding stepmother! I wish this new mixed family a lifetime of happiness and many “firsts.”
Vanessa makes a vow to Henry in the video below, and please share this story to honor all families.