A toxic partner can drain you emotionally and harm your mental health. But what if you’re the toxic one?
Relationships aren’t perfect, either. Imperfections are normal, but toxicity is not. In contrast to imperfection, toxicity drains you emotionally and leaves you with negative feelings.
It’s always easier to blame someone else for being toxic, but you should also take a step back and reflect. What if you are the one who is toxic? We must examine our own behavior and patterns. Sometimes, we’re the toxic one, but we refuse to accept it. Accepting it isn’t a sin since being aware will be the first step toward change.
Identify whether or not you relate to these 10 signs of a toxic romantic partner, and be honest about your answers
1. Being controlling
As if they are the same thing, being bossy and being controlling are often used interchangeably but, in reality, they are quite different. There is a line that needs to be drawn. Trying to gain power over another person is as toxic as it gets when you are controlling.
2. Not respecting their privacy
Sometimes, we are guilty of eavesdropping on our partners’ phones, but if it gets to a point where we don’t respect their privacy, like reading their email or texts on a daily basis, it becomes problematic. If you have any concerns, talk to them, but never intrude on their privacy!
3. Always wanting things your way
Sometimes it is okay to want your way in a relationship, but manipulating is one of the most toxic things that you can do. In a relationship, there is another party involved, and you must respect their wishes as well. One can’t only care about what they want, and it’s not fair to only do things to get their way and nothing else. Relationships require compromise!
4. Changing them as a person
Do not confuse this with wanting your partner to do something, but then expecting them to change completely, as a person, to suit your ways is a very toxic attitude.
5. Only your needs matter
It is your duty to remember someone’s needs and to realize that those needs are as important as your own. You are toxic when only your needs matter.
6. Telling them how to feel
It is neither your right nor your place to tell your partner how they should feel about something according to your convenience. This is a subtle and internal form of gaslighting. When you are constantly invalidating your partner’s feelings and emotions, you are being toxic. It is not your place to decide how they feel.
7. Emotional withholding
If you withhold affection from your partner when they need it, and they are going through a rough patch, then you are being toxic. If you intentionally hold back your love and affection, you are being extremely toxic in a relationship.
8. Emotional manipulation
When you release the waterworks when things do not go your way, you are not being emotional, but extremely manipulative. If you guilt trip your partner into doing or not doing things you want, you are being toxic and making them feel as if they are.
9. They are constantly scared of upsetting you
When your partner complains that they are always afraid of upsetting you because they never know how you will react to certain things on certain days, and they always have to gauge your mood in order to make sure there is no outburst, then you are being extremely toxic and harmful.
10. Emotional and physical a.b.u.s.e
Under no circumstances should you hit your partner. It is the most toxic form of communication. As a result, a.b.u.s.e can be emotional too, and you must remember that your partner is a human being just like you.