I’m in a tough spot about paying for my stepdaughter’s upcoming college tuition, and I’m unsure if I’m being unreasonable. I love our blended family, but a big conflict has come up.
My husband kindly paid for my son’s college tuition from my previous marriage, which I really appreciate. Now, his daughter from his previous marriage is about to start college, and he wants me to help pay for her tuition.
The thing is, I’ve been saving for years for a dream trip to Europe with my friends. This trip isn’t just a vacation; it’s a lifelong dream I’ve been looking forward to. I feel that I’ve been taking care of my family for a long time, and now I want to do something for myself.
My stepdaughter’s mother thinks I’m being selfish for not wanting to help with her education. My husband also thinks it’s unfair, considering he paid for my son’s education. However, we never agreed that I would pay for his daughter’s college tuition.
To make matters worse, my husband’s ex-wife says that if I won’t help with her daughter’s college tuition, I should give back the money my husband paid for my son’s education. She even called me selfish, saying education is more important than a trip.
I feel torn and conflicted. Am I wrong for wanting to keep my savings for my dream vacation?
I really need some advice.
It seems the only thing that matters is their priorities. No wonder they are divorced. This is a conclusion you have to come to And be comfortable with. Seems like it should have been a discussion long before now! He knew you were saving for your trip- because it started a long time ago. Hmmm- really?