Supporting My Sister for Years, I Reached My Limit and Had to Say Goodbye

The person in today’s story had always supported their sister by providing a place to stay, financial help, and constant emotional support, without expecting anything in return. But things took a turn when disappointment set in.

Here’s what happened: For the past four years, my sister has been living with us on and off, covering bills only when she could afford them. I’ve been paying her phone bill for the last two years and am the only one buying groceries.

Lately, she hasn’t contributed to any bills, saying she’s more concerned with herself. She’s also refused to help around the house when I ask for simple things like, “Can you let the dogs out when I’m not home?” or “Can you take out the trash when it’s full?”

Today, I checked on my dogs using the pet camera and overheard her on the phone, calling me some terrible names. It hurt because I’ve been the only family member supporting her since she turned 18—our mom didn’t want her after that.

I lost my cool and told her how hard I’ve worked to ensure she has a roof over her head, even giving her one of our cars to use. Her response? “You’ve never taken care of me; I’ve always taken care of myself.” In the heat of the moment, I told her to pack up and leave since she thinks I don’t do anything for her. Now, I’m wondering if I was too harsh.

People weighed in on the situation:

1. “Your sister is 22, and it’s time for her to grow up. She’s been freeloading off you for four years. She needs to face the consequences of her actions.” – Peony-Pony / Reddit
2. “If you decide to kick her out, make sure you know your local laws. She might have tenant rights, and you want to avoid any legal issues.” – Wraithowl / Reddit
3. “If you feel bad about how it happened, consider having a heart-to-heart with her. Explain your frustration and give her a deadline to move out. She needs to start taking responsibility.” – CornerSevere / Reddit
4. “She’s taking your kindness for granted. It’s time for her to go.” – random8104 / Reddit
5. “Stop letting your sister take advantage of you. Kick her out, but be prepared for her to come back, promising to change. Don’t fall for it.” – H***WHITEBOI25 / Reddit
6. “If you don’t make her grow up now, she never will. She’s living off you for free and acting like you do nothing for her. It’s time to cut the cord for both your sakes.” – omeomi24 / Reddit

In the end, asking their sister to leave wasn’t about anger but necessity. After years of giving without getting anything in return, they realized they couldn’t keep sacrificing their own well-being for someone unwilling to change. Though it was a tough decision, it marked the beginning of a new chapter—one where they could finally focus on their own needs and live in peace.