We’ll never understand the intricacies of dating. Nikki Jabs, who uses TikTok to film her dating life, sobbed after her now-ex boyfriend ordered an Uber to take her home because he was embarrassed by her appearance. The woman from Michigan filmed herself sobbing after leaving his house and returning to her van, dejected and hurt.
Nikki was delighted when her Hinge date, Greg, invited her to a business party to meet her friends and coworkers.
As she prepared for the grand opening of the store where he works, she spent 40 minutes applying cosmetics. With a long-sleeved black crop top and high-waist rosegold pants, she opted for a casual-formal look. When she videotaped herself in the elevator on her way home, she was dressed in a crimson coat.
On the other hand, her “very lovely” partner couldn’t stand seeing her dressed up like that at the occasion.
As she wrote, “He was too embarrassed to be seen with me in this attire, so he took me home in an Uber and skipped the opening.”
Nikki had already told her fans about her first date with Greg from Hinge.
“He seemed shy,” she says on the audio, “so I was carrying the whole conversation.”
The weather has finally warmed up, and we are on our second drink.” “He thinks I am the most interesting person he has ever met, and he is super sweet.”
After they returned to his house and he overcame his shyness, she said, “He said I was so attractive that I made him feel uneasy.”
Nikki described staying with Greg for an indefinite period of time as “the happiest weekend” of her life. “What was it that brought me such good fortune?” he wondered. “You are amazing, and I am so lucky to have met you.”
Nikki continued the story. She lives in a van with her cat. “‘I’m not leaving,’ I declared. ‘You are welcome to remain as long as you like,’ he says. I answered, ‘Don’t tell me that because I might never leave.’ He said, ‘I’d be good with it.’”
Greg continued to profess his love for her, describing himself as “obsessed” and “head over heels” in love with her.
However, as the most recent incident transpired, it all turned into another heartbreak. People asked her for information on the event, which she eventually delivered.
“I picked him up from work today, and we had planned to go out to eat before his work function. As he got into the car, he couldn’t take his gaze away from me.”
“Something horrible was going to happen, I had a feeling. “Why are you staring at me so intently?” I continued to ponder. ‘Oh, nothing,’ he replied again.”
“She went on to add,” she continued “‘You just look so gorgeous,’ he finally remarked. ‘Are you trying to tell me that I’m overdressed?’ I ask. ‘Perhaps not for supper,’ he replied.”
She claims that he has advised her multiple times this week that she is overdressed and should wear a baggy sweater.
“‘Will you be embarrassed if I show up at your work function in this state?’ I stated. ‘Do you want me to go home and change?’ I inquired. I asked, ‘Do you want me to go home and change?’ He didn’t respond. Therefore, I asked, ‘Do you want me to go home and change?’ ‘I’m just in such a bad mood right now,’ he said. We were on our way to the restaurant, but I was annoyed because this had been going on for weeks.”
“At the restaurant, I told myself, ‘I’m either going like this or I’m not going at all.’ ‘So, may I call you an Uber?’ he inquired. ‘Sure,’ I responded, ‘call me an Uber.’
I returned to his apartment, where I’d been staying for the past three weeks, took an Uber back, packed up my possessions, and am now back in my van.
Nikki started pointing out the indirect indications. “It all started with a few casual comments over the past few weeks, like, ‘Why are you wearing heels?”I like it when you wear tennis shoes. Why are you wearing so much makeup? I really appreciate it when you’re being yourself.’
“He thought this was too revealing for his professional function,” she continued. “His present job is with an athleisure clothing company. He wore jogging pants and running shoes and was dressed casually.
Now that Greg is at work, she is back in her car.
Several people pointed out that Greg appeared to be trying to assert control over her life. One individual said, “My ex-boyfriend did this to me.”. It has nothing to do with your appearance. Apparently, he felt self-conscious about something and tried to turn it into a problem for you.”
Someone remarked, “If your wardrobe was so important and detailed, he should have made it plain.” Throw him out the window.”
I am a Domestic Violence Therapist. Testing boundaries is one of the ways DV escalates in a relationship. I am glad you are all OK. I have yet another book to read.”.
It makes no sense for a woman not to show off her midriff with long sleeves if a guy can wear jogging shoes and jogger pants!