The engagement ring symbolizes a person’s love for their future spouse, but they can also be passed down from mother to daughter through the generations. The rings are, however, usually meant for just one person, selected just for them and no one else. In a Reddit post, a mom asked if parents should be expected to pass down their engagement rings to their children. Theoretically, they aren’t going to take it with them when they die. It is possible that the mom in this story is thinking just that after she shared how she decided not to pass on her engagement ring to her son.
Redditors were asked if the woman was selfish or if her son was acting entitled. Read her full post here.
“My son, Sam, and his longtime girlfriend, now fiancee, Emily, both 26, decided to get married.”. They announced their engagement privately to my husband and me, and after the initial excitement they said they had something important to share with me.
Emily wanted my engagement ring, so Sam gave it to her. Sam said this would be an excellent way to avoid starting his marriage in debt from having to buy a new expensive diamond ring. Emily also said that she liked the design of my ring a lot and would love for me to pass it on to her.
My engagement ring is beautiful. I have worn it every day since my husband proposed to me with it, and to be honest, I still have many years to live left that I want to continue wearing it until I am old and grey. Furthermore, my ring is not a family heirloom. My husband bought it for me many years ago. Thus, I told them that I appreciated them wanting my ring, but I wanted to keep it. I listed the reasons above and how I don’t want to part with my ring yet for the rest of my still-long life. When I am older, I would be more than happy to give it to their children.
Sam and Emily weren’t happy with my answer, and Sam actually called me selfish and materialistic. Diamonds, he said, are a scam, and he asked how I could let him go into debt for a new ring. Despite the disappointment, Emily said that she had hoped that my ring would become a family heirloom and would be a token of welcoming her into our family (Emily and I are good friends). Additionally, they said I could keep my wedding band, so I wasn’t left without any rings.
Thank you to everyone who commented. It was interesting to read about your own engagement rings and diamond alternatives. When our son started arguing with me, my husband told him to leave and walk it off. While he said he was on my side and would have respected my choice with the ring, he admitted that he was glad I still loved my ring so much after so many years!”
Redditors jumped to the mom’s defense on this one. One user wrote:
“It was bad enough that Emily was there, but her expressing her own disappointment? That’s unbelievable. What’s next, they want OP’s house so they don’t have to “start their marriage in debt”? Go ahead and throw in all your savings, you two are old and your lives are basically over! In my position, I’d seriously question where my husband and I went wrong in raising this self-absorbed AH and how he came to be this way. “NTA time to grow up.”
They want a diamond, but they don’t want to pay for one. Total AHs – both of them. This request is totally unreasonable and selfish (really outlandishly rude). I can’t believe they were in agreement with asking you. Both of them are nuts. Even though they call it a “scam” whatever, it sounds like they actually want a moissanite. No way! What a couple of jerks.”
Also, many talked about their cheaper engagement rings with great pride and affection. A poster wrote:
“My wedding ring is made of copper. The total cost is probably in the pennies hahaha I love it because it represents our love as well as our love for utilitarianism.
Thank you for reading. Could you please share this story with your family and friends?
- “AITA for not wanting to pass down my engagement ring to my future DIL?” Reddit.