Finding Love Again After Loss: Donna’s Struggle with Her In-Laws
Navigating the loss of a spouse is incredibly difficult, and moving forward can be challenging. Donna, one of our readers, found love again after her husband passed away and is now expecting her first child.
However, Donna’s situation has become complicated. She lives in a house owned by her in-laws, and they are upset about her plans to bring her new partner into the home. Feeling anxious, the pregnant mother reached out to us for advice.
Here’s Donna’s story:
“My in-laws let us live in their second house when we got married. Shortly after, my husband got sick and passed away before we could start a family. My in-laws supported me and said I could continue living there.
Four years later, I found love again and am now pregnant. My boyfriend doesn’t own a place, so he plans to move in with me. But my mother-in-law said, ‘Bringing another man there is an insult to my son!’ I refused to leave, and my father-in-law stayed silent.
Days later, I was shocked to find a large box of my clothes on the porch. Then, I got a call from a lawyer who said my father-in-law has put the house up for sale. I was told I have a month to collect the rest of my things and move out.
I am shocked and furious. Was I expected to remain a widow for life just to have a roof over my head?”
You’ve had 4 years to get your life together. Seems you have found a new love, so start a new life without memories of your dying husband. Your former inlaws have a right to feel its disrespectful, so thank them for 4 years of support and you and your new man and baby start new. Find a place and start your new life. There should be no hard feelings. Most inlaws would have asked you to leave long ago.
You haven’t mentioned if you’re paying rent but regardless of that you’ve taken their offer to help you way too far. I would’ve thought you would’ve moved by now anyway. It’s been over 4 years. Perhaps they were only keeping the home because you were there. Additionally, now your new man can help you. It hurts their hearts that they did not get a grandchild. You’re being selfish and immature to think they would continue caring for you forever. Grow up, move on, start your family with your new man.
I can see where your former husband’s parents have an issue with another man in THIS house. And if you truly want to respect your first husband’s memory and respect his family. You will move on with this new love, your child, and your future. You have no reason to expect your deceased husband’s family to support your future.
No they don’t expect you to be a widow for life but they expect the man who’s taking you to be responsible just like their son was and pit a roof over ur head and provide like a man. If he can’t house you, how will he take care of the unborn baby when it comes?? Feed it on love??
You shouldn’t expect your ex inlaws to provide a home for you and your new man.